Relational Computing

The systematic study of how technology and human relationships shape each other

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Technology Mediating Human Connection

How digital tools reshape relationships between humans—from intimacy patterns to communication norms to social expectations.

Research Areas
  • Dating apps altering mate selection criteria
  • Messaging platforms changing communication patterns
  • Social media affecting friendship dynamics
  • Video calls transforming family intimacy
  • Collaborative tools reshaping workplace relationships
  • Memory-sharing apps affecting emotional processing
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Relationships WITH Technology

How humans form emotional bonds with AI, platforms, and digital entities—treating technology as relationship partners.

Research Areas
  • AI companions and emotional attachment
  • Parasocial bonds with algorithms/platforms
  • Trust in algorithmic decision-making
  • Anthropomorphization of chatbots/assistants
  • Mourning when AI personalities update
  • Preference for AI over human conversation
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Human Needs Shaping Technology

How desires for connection, intimacy, and belonging drive what we build—the reverse causality in the feedback loop.

Research Areas
  • Loneliness driving AI companion development
  • Desire for ephemerality creating Snapchat
  • Need for validation shaping social features
  • Isolation influencing platform design
  • FOMO driving notification architecture
  • Connection scarcity affecting feature prioritization

An Emerging Interdisciplinary Field

Relational Computing sits at the intersection of Human-Computer Interaction, relationship psychology, and computational social science. It examines the bidirectional relationship between technology and human connection—how our tools shape the way we relate to each other, how we form bonds with technology itself, and how our fundamental need for connection drives technological innovation.

This framework moves beyond studying technology as a neutral mediator to recognizing it as an active participant in relational ecosystems. As AI companions become more sophisticated, as memory technologies reshape how we preserve intimacy, and as algorithmic curation influences who we connect with, understanding these dynamics becomes critical.

The field draws on attachment theory, social network analysis, affective computing, and platform studies to create a comprehensive understanding of technology-mediated intimacy in the 21st century.

How Relational Computing Relates to Other Fields

vs. Human-Computer Interaction (HCI)

HCI: How humans interact with computers (usability, efficiency, experience)

RC: How computers change human relationships + how relationships drive tech evolution

Key difference: HCI optimizes the interface; RC studies societal transformation

Relationship: RC uses HCI methods but asks different questions

vs. Computer-Supported Cooperative Work (CSCW)

CSCW: Technology enabling workplace collaboration

RC: Technology shaping intimacy, belonging, loneliness across ALL contexts

Key difference: CSCW = instrumental relationships; RC = affective relationships

Relationship: CSCW is a subset focused on work; RC covers entire relational spectrum

vs. Social Computing

Social Computing: Building platforms that enable social connection

RC: Studying what those platforms DO to connection (bidirectional causality)

Key difference: Social computing builds tools; RC studies transformation + feedback loops

Relationship: RC analyzes what social computing creates

vs. Affective Computing

Affective Computing: Machines detecting and expressing emotion

RC: How emotional bonds form THROUGH or WITH technology

Key difference: Affective = tech understanding emotion; RC = tech reshaping intimacy

Relationship: Affective computing provides tools; RC studies relational outcomes

vs. Relationship Science/Psychology

Traditional: Offline human relationships, tech as minor variable

RC: Technology as fundamental causal mechanism in modern connection

Key difference: Traditional treats tech as context; RC treats it as core driver

Relationship: RC applies relationship theory to tech-mediated contexts

vs. Media Psychology

Media Psych: How media consumption affects individuals

RC: How platforms reshape relationships BETWEEN people + WITH technology

Key difference: Media psych = consumption effects; RC = relational transformation

Relationship: Overlaps on parasocial relationships, but RC is broader